Starting childcare is one of the most significant transitions a young child will experience. For many families, it brings a mix of excitement and anxiety — and that's completely normal. The good news is that with the right preparation and a supportive environment, most children settle in beautifully within a few weeks.
What does 'settling in' actually look like?
Every child is different, but most go through a predictable pattern. In the first few days, your child may be curious and engaged — the novelty of a new environment can be exciting. By the end of the first week, as the newness wears off and the reality of separation sets in, you may notice more tears at drop-off. This is completely normal and is actually a sign of healthy attachment.
Most children settle within 2–6 weeks. Some take a little longer, particularly if they haven't had much experience away from their primary caregiver. A small number of children take several months to fully settle, and that's okay too.
How to make drop-off easier
- Keep your goodbye short and consistent. A long, drawn-out farewell can increase anxiety for both of you.
- Create a simple goodbye ritual — a special hug, a high five, a wave from the window. Rituals are reassuring because they're predictable.
- Always say goodbye. Sneaking out may seem kinder in the moment, but it erodes trust and can make separation harder over time.
- Trust your educators. If your child is still crying after you leave, our team will contact you. In most cases, children settle within minutes of a parent departing.
- Arrive on time. Rushed mornings increase stress for everyone. Give yourself an extra 10 minutes.
It's okay to feel emotional at drop-off too. Many parents find the first few weeks just as hard as their child does. Be kind to yourself — you're doing something important for your child's development.
The role of the primary educator
At Jenny's ELC, we use a primary educator model in our Nursery and Toddler rooms. This means your child is cared for by the same familiar educator each day, building a secure and trusting relationship. Research consistently shows that this consistency is one of the most important factors in successful settling.
Signs your child has settled
- They talk about their educators and friends at home
- They show you things they made or did at the centre
- Drop-off tears reduce or stop altogether
- They seem happy and energetic when you pick them up
- They ask to go to 'school' on their days off
"The transition to childcare is not just about your child learning to be without you — it's about them learning that the world is safe, that other adults can be trusted, and that new experiences are worth embracing."
— Jenny's ELC Education Team